The Responsibility of Raising Girls & Its Virtues

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Below is a combination of many Prophetic Ahadith narrated on the topic of raising girls and its rewards.

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Whoever has three daughters, or three sisters, and

  1. fears Allah regarding them,[i]
  2. takes up the responsibility of caring for them,[ii]
  3. supports them,[iii]
  4. spends on them,[iv]
  5. gives them shelter,[v]
  6. feeds them,[vi]
  7. gives them to drink,[vii]
  8. clothes them from his wealth,[viii]
  9. conceals them,[ix]
  10. treats them kindly,[x]
  11. disciplines them,[xi]
  12. gives them a good upbringing,[xii]
  13. prevents them (from wrongdoing)[xiii]
  14. is patient towards them,[xiv]
  15. keeps good company with them,[xv]
  16. has mercy on them,[xvi]
  17. is sufficient for them,[xvii]
  18. does not bury them alive,[xviii]
  19. does not humiliate them,[xix]
  20. does not prefer his (male) children over them,[xx]
  21. (does all this) until they reach maturity and then,[xxi]
  22. marries them off,[xxii]
  23. or they die,[xxiii]
  • For him is the rewards of the mujahid in path of Allah while fasting and standing (in prayer),[xxiv]
  • They will be a barrier for him on the Day of Judgment from the Hell Fire,[xxv]
  • And I and he will come on the Day of Judgement like this (and the Prophet closed his fingers)[xxvi]
  • And he will enter Paradise,[xxvii]
  • I and he will enter Paradise like these two (And the Prophet indicated with his two fingers.)”

A Sahabi asked, “And two, O Messenger of Allah?” He ﷺ replied, “Even two.”[xxviii] A Sahabi said, “If someone had asked, ‘And one?’ he ﷺ would have replied, ‘Even one.’”[xxix]

There is a narration of ‘Sunan Ibn Majah’ where the Messenger ﷺ explicitly mentions the above for raising even one daughter.


[i] Tirmidhi #1916, Ahmed in Musnad Vol.6 Pg.27 (اتقى)

[ii] Ahmed in Musnad Vol.3 Pg.303 (تكفل)

[iii] Muslim in Sahih #2631 (عال)

[iv] Ahmed in Musnad Vol.6 Pg.27 & 29, Tabarani in Kabir Vol.18 Pg.56 #102 (أنفق)

[v] Ahmed in Musnad Vol.3 Pg.303, Bukhari in Adabul Mufrad #78 (يؤوي)

[vi] Ibn Majah #3669, Ahmed in Musnad #17403 (أطعم)

[vii] Ibn Majah #3669, Ahmed in Musnad #17403 (سقى)

[viii] Ibn Majah #3669, Ahmed in Musnad #17403, Bukhari in Adabul Mufrad #76 (كساهن من جدته)

[ix] Bazzar in Musnad, Kashful Asrar Vol.2 Pg.384 #1908 (ستر) or it can mean, “clothe them.”

[x] Abu Dawud #5147, Ahmed in Musnad #11924 (أحسن الى)

[xi] Abu Dawud #5147, Ahmed in Musnad #11924 (أدب)

[xii] Tabarani in Kabir Vol.11 Pg.216-217 #11542 (أحسن أدبهن)

[xiii] Tabarani in Awsat Vol.6 Pg.205 #6199 (كف) or it can mean, “protected them,” “took them in.”

[xiv] Ibn Majah #3669, Bukhari in Adabul Mufrad #76 (صبر على)

[xv] Tirmidhi #1916, Bukhari in Adabul Mufrad #77 (أحسن صحبة)

[xvi] Ahmed in Musnad Vol.3 Pg.303 (رحم)

[xvii] Bukhari in Adabul Mufrad #78 (يكفي)

[xviii] Abu Dawud #5146 (لم يئد)

[xix] Abu Dawud #5146 (لم يهن)

[xx] Abu Dawud #5146 (لم يؤثر ولده عليها)

[xxi] Ibn Majah #3670 (حتى بلغن)

[xxii] Abu Dawud #5147, Bukhari in Adabul Mufrad #78 (زوج)

[xxiii] Ahmed in Musnad Vol.6 Pg.27 & 29, Tabarani in Kabir Vol.18 Pg.56 #102 (متن)

[xxiv] Bazzar in Musnad, Kashful Asrar Vol.2 Pg.384-285 #1909

[xxv] Tirmidhi #1915, Ibn Majah #3669, Ahmed in Musnad Vol.6 Pg.27 & 29, Tabarani in Kabir Vol.18 Pg.56 #102

[xxvi] Muslim in Sahih #2631

[xxvii] Abu Dawud #5146, Tirmidhi #1912

[xxviii] Tirmidhi #1914, Abu Dawud #5148 “two daughters or two sisters.”

[xxix] Ahmed in Musnad Vol.3 Pg.303

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